In Love, There Is Acceptance

You see.

With love, there is acceptance.

With love, there is joy, and happiness, and a whole picnic basket of incredibly wonderful things.

But, with love, there is acceptance.

I would say that in Love there will be all the sweetness, love, happy thoughts, (“good”) lies, (“good”) deceit, and good-intentions-executed-poorly and as a result, misunderstandings. Everything comes together in a big, fat package and you really can’t pick-and-choose what comes in your little Cupid’s hamper, and it’s okay, because in Love, we become the bigger person, we choose mutual happiness, we choose to accept things we cannot change. Above all, we choose to accept some One for all he or she is, and ideally, vice versa. 

Don’t change, and don’t try to change your One. 

There are so many ways to make your One happy. It’s an undeniable reality that we sometimes go out of our way to make our respective Ones happy. Sometimes we trample over our own needs and desires; sometimes we ditch our buddies (“Bros over hoes, anyone?”), sometimes we make sacrifices; give up some interests and dreams, sometimes we manage things differently from before, and that’s okay too. There is no one right method to make things work, and nothing’s ever wrong in Love.

Love is like that overarching promise we all believe in, balm to Man’s soul, the BIGGER, BIGGEST common goal in everyone’s life that seems to make all other things in the world right.

I realized:

It’s okay to be anything you want.
It’s okay to be who you (really) are.
It’s okay to BE yourself.

Love is a promise between two consenting parties: Lovers. Family. Friends.

In Love, there is acceptance. But in Love, there is acceptance.


Post Notes & Explanation: 
“Don’t change, and don’t try to change your One.” – I am referring to the crazy phenomena when people change completely and become wholly foreign to their original self and friends the moment they get attached. I think there’s a very stark difference between honeymoon-period-change (e.g. he/she doesn’t meet his/her friends for the first months of the relationship) and when a person changes for the better/worse over a long duration of a relationship (e.g. the person develops negative feelings and cynical thoughts towards life and love). 

Of course, in the case of a person changing for the better, there’s nothing wrong with that. Haha, love changes people in ways we can never fathom, we all know that. I’m really referring to “negative change” here: Someone changing to appease the other half or someone being coerced by the other half subconsciously/indirectly to become something they are entirely not. If you love someone, you really shouldn’t be trying to change them to what you fantasize a dream boyfriend or girlfriend should be like. That’s not love, that’s being psycho. 

“In Love, there is acceptance. But in Love, there is acceptance.” – Love is a soothing balm to the soul, but Love can be a weapon. My point is that in the good times, in love, there is acceptance. Similarly, in the bad times, in love there should be acceptance. It’s common in bad times that what-love-is-left falls apart to glass pieces, or worse, the Love once felt is converted to distaste, disgust, hate, animosity. And frankly, that’s not Love anymore. 

There are some points I’ve addressed that I haven’t explained but I’ll leave them to another time.